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How to Have a Modern Wedding
The idea of marrying in a traditional white wedding, rife with gender stereotypes often doesn't sit comfortably with the very modern bride or groom.

The 'traditional' wedding doesn't just rigidify and codify the marriage ritual, but it also rigidifies and codifies notions of masculinity and femininity as well.

Unfortunately, that's how most weddings, particularly the ceremony, are still structured and performed. And, even more unfortunately, most celebrants do not question many of the customs, traditions, and phraseology of the traditional wedding, so while they may encourage you to have fun, to ditch tradition, on the day you'll be blindsided by some of the words and many of the actions.

The Issues
The white wedding as we know it was originally a matter of fashion, performed by a minority of upper-crust society - following the examples of Queen Victoria's wedding and that of her daughter Princess Victoria. Even in the 21st century a wedding has become a very precisely defined set of notions about right and proper behaviour for men and women, and society at large.

A hundred years after women got the vote, 30+ years after the groom no longer gained conjugal rights (i.e. total rights over his wife's body) on marriage, religious weddings and a distressingly high proportion of celebrant-performed weddings still include 'who gives this woman to be married to this man' as opposed to asking both sets of parents to give their blessing and support to the marriage, still include matched sets along gender lines for the bridal party, still incorporate a range of traditions (really they are superstitions) to ensure good luck and fertility or to fend off bad luck.

And have you noticed that most wedding traditions/superstitions somehow revolve around the bride, as if she's solely responsible for the success of the marriage. All the groom has to do is show up on the day (and provide financial support for the family). That isn't the way it is nowadays!

In fact, in many weddings you wouldn't know you weren't back in the 19th century, except for one thing. The bride is no longer expected to look (and be) virginal. Now she is expected to look (and be) hot, an object of sexual desire.

But it doesn't have to be like that. Every stereotypical part of the wedding can be reconfigured to send a message of equality, of mutual regard, of mutual support. Talk to me about this aspect of your wedding. I've put a lot of time, thought, and effort, into ensuring that you marry in a ritual of equals

What I Will Deliver
  • A ceremony that, while it includes all the various traditional elements, such as the processional, the support statements by the parents, the affirmations of intention, the vows, the ring exchange, the pronouncement and the invitation to kiss, is free of gender stereotypes and outdated customs

 Wedding Ceremony Packages (downloadable summary of inclusions)

How to Book Your Marriage Ceremony
  • Complete the booking form I will send you AND pay $200 non-refundable deposit. Both are required to lock the date and time into my diary
  • The balance of the fee is due one month before the ceremony
  Contact me to enquire about my availability and book your ceremony